Our Top 5 Tips to Smashing your Goals in 2018
So here we are again…
The start of a New Year, new goals, new resolutions and intentions.
But if you’re anything like me … New Years has become just another day. Sure, it feels nice to start a fresh un-beaten down diary, and there is a sense of “newness” in the air … but I learnt in recent years that setting “new year resolutions” just isn’t for me. Because the truth is, you don’t need it to be January 1st to make a big life change … that power is in your court 365 days of the year. So how to we leverage this power and actually STICK to our plans to make a positive life change? … whether it be now, in May, July or November.
Here are my top 5 tips to smashing your goals in 2018…
1. GOALS NEED TO HAVE PURPOSE
If you’ve set a goal to “lose 10 kg’s” every January for the last five January’s … chances are, this isn’t the right goal for you. We humans LOVE to measure, and tangibly track our progress … which is necessary at times … but what keeps us hanging on to our goals isn’t an empty number on the scale, it’s the feeling that we are doing something bigger than ourselves. That we are taking our lives into our own hands and creating something different … how powerful and motivating is THAT?! So the first step to smashing your goals is making sure you set one that has some purpose and meaning behind it! Try and base these goals around feelings instead of kg’s, numbers or dates. Instead of “I want to lose 10kg’s by December” … Try “I want to FEEL more confident in my body this year!” This takes the pressure off hitting a specific number by a specific date and opens the door to a much healthier relationship with your body & the way you approach weight loss. #winning
2. BE THE TORTOISE, NOT THE HARE
We all know the classic story of The Tortoise and The Hare… and how “slow and steady will win the race”. Use this little gem of wisdom in your approach to goal smashing this year. We often forget that the “bad habits” we want to change or break often manifested for YEARS and developed in our life over a long period of time. They are not going to go away in a day. This is especially true for the gym. We often neglect our bodies for very long periods of time and then expect miraculous turnarounds in 6 weeks or less. Play the long game with your goals this year, keep in mind that REAL change takes time and that ultimately what makes it so much more rewarding in the end is the journey you took to get there!
3. SET YOURSELF UP FOR SUCCESS
I have never been too good at following strict rules. Someone tells me not to touch the hot plate … so what do I want to do … well, yeah! Touch the bloody plate!! As a general rule, I have found that “diets” or goals which cut out things entirely are never the answer. Sure, maybe we go through periods where we avoid coffee or alcohol, but telling yourself that you’re never allowed ice cream, or brownies or cookies ever again is just setting yourself up for failure. Failure feels bad. Failure makes us want to throw our stupid goals out the window and eat the entire cookie aisle at Woolies. Don’t set yourself up for failure. I have found that setting ‘limitations’ as opposed to ‘restrictions’ is so much more effective when it comes to managing change. If you know you enjoy ice cream and ice cream makes you happy, then you should have some ice cream in your life! Just limit the number of times you have it per week. If you normally have it every night, start by cutting it down to 5 times per week, and then 4, and then 3 and then maybe just weekends or 1 night a week. The great thing about limiting as opposed to restricting is you don’t feel like you’re depriving yourself of the foods that make you happiest … you’ve just consciously chose to make healthier choices for your body on a more regular basis… GO YOU!
4. HAVE A PLAN
When you’re making a life change, whether it’s fitness, diet or behaviour related, the first month or so will feel impossible … like you’re getting no where and you will want to quit a million times … this is just the nature of change. So when your setting a goal for yourself, also think about setting a plan in place for when sh*t gets real and you want to back out on it. This is why having PURPOSE behind your goal (and not just a number) can be so powerful. As you’re setting a goal, I want you to write down, in 3-5 points, what it would mean to you to achieve this goal. How would it change your life? How would it make you feel? So that every time you feel like calling it quits, you can pull out your notes and remind yourself why you started, and why you’re going to see this through.
5. FIND A COMMUNITY
Just about all of the books I have read about managing and growing a business have spoken about having a strong support system and leveraging the strengths of the team against your weaknesses. This applies to any form of goal setting or period of personal growth. You need to surround yourself with a team of people who are on your level. People who also want to make positive change. People who also want to grow and get better. Whether that be at fitness, nutrition or the violin, find these people and stick yourself to them like glue. They are your support team. They are the ones who will hold out their hands and carry you through the hard days, and vice versa. So find a community. One that you resonate with, one that you enjoy being a part of, and one that you can count on. Team work makes the dream work.
Lastly, we are so quick to criticise and put ourselves down for small slip-ups, mistakes or set-backs. Remember first and foremost that you are a human, we humans aren’t perfect, and change can be bloody hard. Then give yourself an encouraging slap on the bum and go on and do the damn thing! Celebrate ALL your victories, no matter how small… and never be afraid to talk some positivity into your journey … like “hell yes girlfriend - you are doin’ great, I believe in you, Nice butt!”.
Happy 2018 everyone, Happy Treigning! xx